There is not a day goes by that I don’t see a quote on someone’s Instagram story about self-care, and as much as I am an undeniable believer in self-care – I think that sometimes people get the meaning of it wrong… this is something that I have personally come to realise and there may be certain things that you try and they work for you straight away, but what I want to do is tell you guys all about those little acts that I think will truly begin to help.
There are of course ‘pamper nights’ and my god am I a fan of those (blog soon to follow), I will aim to have at least one pamper night a week where I will: wash my hair, tan my body, face mask, paint my nails. All of the wonderful things life has to offer basically. However, I found that personally I was really good at making sure that on the outside I was looking after myself but not on the inside.
It’s really easy to always be the girl that has nicely painted nails, or who people don’t know if you’re naturally that tanned as they have never seen you without, but at some point you have to ask yourself ‘is it more important to look after myself or my appearance?’. The reality is that it is so so much more important to look after yourself, that is priority uno. This realisation came to me when I was having a bit of a wobble to my Mum once and I was talking about how I wasn’t feeling like myself and she made me realise that even though on the outside I looked good, that I could make time to shave my legs and tan – I couldn’t find time to drink enough water in a day or exercise more.
Now, this isn’t me trying to have a preach at you lovely people – I just wanted to tell you about the little self-care acts that I am practicing at the moment (or planning to) that I think could be really influential…
Drink 3 litres of water a day
Ok, I know this sounds a lot but it really isn’t. You can buy 1.5 litre bottles from Amazon, and if you filled that up twice a day then boom you’ll be done. The short and long-term affects of drinking water, are paramount and please just trust me on this one.
Don’t look at social media as soon as you wake up
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for having a scroll when I am on my commute and seeing what my fellow instagrammers are up to – but in the morning, as soon as you wake up, your mind is essentially empty and if you see something that you don’t want to see then you are putting yourself in a bad mindset for the whole day. There is something almost unnerving to me, how one little app can have so much power over the way we feel and when you don’t succumb to that then you feel like you are more in control. This has been life-changing for me. I used to see no issue in being on my phone up until that moment where I wanted to go to sleep, not realising that in the same way it affects when you wake up as well. No matter how hard you try, there are downfalls of social media, and it is affecting most people negatively in terms of self-confidence, awareness and idealisation. That can affect how easily your brain will switch off to go to sleep, not to mention the light from your phone affects your REM cycle dramatically.
Learn the difference between doing what’s best for you and being selfish
This is a very hard one to figure out, because you see all of these quotes about ‘putting yourself first’ and treating people unfairly. Sometimes it is essential to say no to things that you knew you wouldn’t enjoy, and putting yourself out of your comfort zone with an event that you know won’t bring you any joy – but remember that selfishness excludes others while self-care includes.
Don’t go on your phone before bed
This has been life-changing for me. I used to see no issue in being on my phone up until that moment where I wanted to go to sleep, not realising that in the same way it affects when you wake up as well. Now I always read my book for twenty minutes no matter what, I even remember coming in from a night out and taking my make up off and drunkenly reading my book still as I know how much it helps me sleep and let’s my body shut down properly.
Don’t take life too seriously
Sometimes serious things happen and they need to be dealt with in the correct manner, but why waste time making yourself stressed over a situation/ comment that doesn’t warrant it? Or, sometimes it’s as simple as just being silly sometimes and goofing around with people you love as if you concerned yourself with everyone’s problems in the world you wouldn’t be able to find joy in anything.
So, I know it’s not many but these are some that I am working on with myself right now and maybe I’ll write another blog in a few months when I’ve figured out some more good’ns.
Over and out.